Comments on: You Think Working Makes You a Better Mommy Than Me?

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 20:07:16 +0000

I just found your blog – I love it!

I am a working mom and being away from my 10 month old is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but it is the way it is for now. I love your blog about this, it does seem crazy that people can be so ugly to one another about this topic. I want nothing more than to stay home, but financially it isn’t possible, hopefully when we have our second I can. Someone wrote to me the other day when I was having a particular hard day leaving my little man she said that she felt my pain & feels the same way when she leaves her 14 month old every Monday. Then she said it never gets better or easier to leave them & she personally felt like it never should. It just made me feel so great to hear that. That my feelings of missing and longing to be with my baby this Monday was the way I should feel!

Thanks for sharing your great gift of writing, I am glad I stumbled upon your blog!

(i googled images for hoof & mouth, it is going around our daycare!)

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:27:13 +0000

I would like to simply say that ALL mothers are “working” mothers. Some of us just don’t have the luxury (or really the choice) to work at home.

I have worked in the hospitality industry for years (rarely a 40 hour work week…usually more.) When I was pregnant I told my boss that I was going to demand the maximum allowable leave of absence time to bond with my little one before having to trudge back to the corporate world. During that time, I came to realize the HUGE job it is for mothers who stay at home and my respect for “stay-at-home” moms grew exponentially, as did my respect for single mothers. The scheduling, problem solving, budgeting, level of patience and countless other resume-worthy desriptives are used much more than I can say I do in my 8 – 12 hour work days.

I vote that the phrase “stay-at-home-mother” change to “work-at-home-mother.” It is “work”…a job (career) so rewarding with personal growth that is immeasurable. I wish I could make the transition into this career path but, sadly, it does not work for our home. Maybe some day. For now, my job knows that they are not #1 – that my family comes first and I demand that they respect that…and I am lucky enough to have a company who recognizes that importance.

Okay – so I “simply” said a bit more than planned…just a “working” momma advocating the “work-at-home” mommas.

By: krista

krista — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 07:13:45 +0000

you would think we wouldn’t even have to listen to these types of discussions anymore, right?
(sigh)
and thank you so much for your kind comment

By: Angela

Angela — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:05:06 +0000

Seriously- don’t we have more important things to be passionate about. Why is it that women insist on tearing one another down? I do what works for my family, you do what works for yours, the end.
Angela´s last blog ..the kindness of aquaintances-thankful

By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 02:17:28 +0000

I’ve been a SAHM, and I am now a working mother, so I just had to comment
I stayed at home with my boys for 2 years, and it was awesome! We lived in Lee’s Summit where we were close to friends, parks, libraries, restaurants, shopping malls, etc. We had play dates at the mall, McDonald’s, water parks. We went to story time at the library and theme parties at the community center. There were days we did absolutely nothing, but we still had a blast together! When we moved to Tiny Town, I knew I had to get a job for a number of reasons. There would be no more story time, theme party or play dates for us. I was sad, but I knew it was the way it had to be. The boys have been in daycare over a year now, and they get to have play dates, theme parties, and story time on a daily basis…and they absolutely love it!!! They get to do everything they did before, just without me. I am okay with it because I know how much fun they are having and how much they are learning…and I love my job! Great post, Tasha!

By: Nina

Nina — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 14:28:28 +0000

Here…here…I loved the article. You gotta do what you gotta do to make things work for you and your family and your situation and do the best you can. I think its wonderful that you can stay home with the boys. I think you get to enjoy your children more and we all know they are too quicky grown and gone; however, if a mom isn’t able to stay at home and has to work, I don’t think it “damages” the kids as long as they have a strong and loving family life when they are home.